Today, it seems like everyone and their mother has ADHD. However, for those who actually have it, well, believe you me, we do not feel like we are being ‘trendy’ or attention seeking. An ADHDer does not typically carry this diagnosis with pride. Well, at least not me. Oh, how I wish I were a neurotypical.
When my son was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD, I started to take a deep dive into it all. What came out of this deep dive? A lot of ‘ah-ha’ moments. As it turns out, this is genetic. Passed down from generation to generation, like a soup recipe but for your DNA…and less welcoming. That certainly rings true for my family. My grandma would burst out into song and dance at any moment, be super creative, but also live with anxiety and RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria). My dad, who struggles to stay focused, rarely sticks to a project and lets tasks pile up, reminds me a lot of my existence. I am unable to sit still; I talk until the cows come home; I am super anxious all the time, crippled with RSD, full of creative ideas that I start and never finish, and my, does this list go on.
When I was diagnosed, my entire world finally made sense. I wish I had known I had ADHD when I was a child. All those meetings with teachers and my parents would have gone differently. All the negative talk from my family members (they always saw me as lazy), peers, and even managers (apparently I talk too much and too loudly in the workplace) would have been handled differently… and I wouldn’t have sat there thinking I was “Lazy” all this time.
Nonetheless, I have a career…a pretty rewarding one at that. I was lucky enough to fall into a role that suits me perfectly as an ADHDer. Despite not realising I had ADHD, I have always been pretty self-aware. So choosing a career path came easily to me. Which is probably why I am so good at helping others choose their career paths. Being someone with ADHD gives me a superpower – Emotional Intelligence. This is my greatest strength, the one I lean on in my career, and it has served me well.
I have a master’s in Human Resource Management, and I have even worked overseas hiring teachers from around the world. Now, I run a small business with my sister. Being a Career Coach is a perfect fit for me. However, this does not mean that it is always easy to manage my business, or myself for that matter. In fact, my ADHD slows me down greatly. Imagine what I could have achieved if I had the relevant treatment for ADHD back when I was in high school – I could have been sitting on an empire by now.
So as you see, living with ADHD is a constant battle – fighting between what I should be doing vs what my mind and body are forcing me to do. Who is winning, ADHD or my strength and determination to make a mark for myself and my career? At this stage, the answer depends on the day. The reality is, both are part of me. I have ADHD, and I have goals that I feel strongly about. It is a constant push-pull. I take advantage of the days and time my energy is focused on growth, and I am kind to myself on the days when all I can do is make a coffee.
If you are looking for answers on how to manage your ADHD, well, you have come to the wrong place. But if you are looking for career ideas that suit your ADHD, look no further.
As a side note, if you want to work with me, just know I would give you my all. Ask anyone with ADHD, and they will tell you – they never miss a deadline, they hyper-focus when push comes to shove, and they do their jobs very well. The only reason they struggle to move up quickly is that they don’t have the same drive to apply the same level of attention to themselves as they do to their managers, clients, and co-workers.
My Career Angels…become who you want to be