I have seen this more than once and have even been victim to it myself…coming face to face with a naysayer.
‘a person who criticises, objects and says it cannot be done. Someone who is sceptical of your abilities or possibilities of success’.
There is always someone out there who is a naysayer and will tell you how you are wrong, unable, and incapable or should not follow your career goals and dreams. Sadly, it could be a close family member or friend who give you this negative criticism and lack of support.
It can be very hurtful, demotivating and crushing to have someone show little support or enthusiasm for your passions and career goals. Especially if this person is someone in your immediate circle. It could even get you to start questioning if it is worth pursuing your goals. It may make you questions “what if they are indeed right?”. So is a naysayer correct, are they just protecting you from failure and future heartache or is there a deeper motive behind it?
There are three things to consider when figuring out the motives behind a naysayer:
This is sadly common. Most people are jealous of others’ success and others’ abilities to go after their dreams. It is not an easy feat to see your dreams come to life and many individuals hold back due to fear or larger obstacles in their way. So, these people will do and say anything to try and get you to stay in their zone. If you grow and flourish, it will only make them feel worse about themselves.
Our advice; follow your dreams.
Focus on you! Do not worry about other people’s insecurities. It is their own personal issues they need to overcome and resolve, not yours. You should not limit your growth to sooth other people’s egos.
Overall, it is not easy to block out negative feedback when you are dealing with your personal, close to heart goals and dreams. Especially when you are so excited and hopeful, it hurts when someone comes along and tries to crush it.
What you should do first when you come across a naysayer is to listen; try to understand why they are naysaying. Is it projecting, envy or do they have a point? This is where you need to do further research and find out for yourself if your career goals are logical, make sense and indeed achievable. If they are right, you can alter your goals so that they are logical and still fit in with your vision.
If the person who puts you down is clearly envious or clueless about you and your abilities, you should choose to ignore their words. If people think you cannot do it, that is their thoughts and thoughts are not facts!
Happy Job Hunting,
My Career Angels