Wow, what a strange topic to discuss, however, recently I saw a post where a comedian who liked to “debate” for a living posted a sign saying “everyone who loves their job is an example of Stockholm Syndrome. Change my mind”! Needless to say, being a career coach, that trigged a “that is absolutely not true” reaction in me and I would have loved an opportunity to have debated that notion with him and change his mind! Since I could not, I thought I will reach out to you, dear reader, and explain my professional and personal view on why you can honestly and purely love your job.
Before we get into it, let us first define what Stockholm Syndrome (SS) is. It is when a victim develops positive (love like) feelings towards their abuser(s) or captors. It is considered as a coping mechanism for the victim. The victim does not realise that their feelings are not genuine. So in this particular argument, we are then saying that our employers are abusers, our captors and we; are the victims.
Well, I have done some research on other peoples opinion’s on the topic, and they suggest that an employee can indeed get SS from an abusive manager and stay due to fear of loss of income, for example. However, to me, fear does not sound positive, in fact it is very negative, which then is opposite to the notion of what SS represents.
Ok, get comfortable, because I am now about to go through my various arguments for why there is no SS when it comes to work, that instead, people stay and endure negative, toxic environments for different reasons*.
*But before I do get deep into it, this is based on professional HR and Career Coach experience and not science.
Here is a list of reasons why one would fear resigning from their jobs:
The fear outlined above are all valid reasons and are understandable. This article, however, is not about how to deal with these fears (but stay tuned for future pieces that will address it). This blog is about why people can truly, honestly, whole heartedly love their job without any agendas, stigma or syndrome associated to it.
Here are the reasons why someone can honestly love their work:
But this only works if the management are supportive and provide positive leadership. If you make work a place where someone enjoys going into, coupled with passion; you can love your job. The conditions need to be right, you cannot be happy if the organisation you work for treats you like garbage, nor can you enjoy your work where you feel your contribution is worthless. However, striking a balance between supportive companies (not captors) and a role you find fulfilling, you can truly wake up on a Monday morning, jump out of bed and think to yourself “yeah, I am happy to go into the office today!”
Before anyone tells me that this is an adults version of Santa Clause, that something like this does not exist, I am here to tell you not only is that not true, but that I myself have personally experienced this a number of times. I have been lucky enough to work for some companies that have been like a social day out rather than feeling like ‘work’. I have also worked for organisations that made me feel like I was indeed captured by some horrid monsters…however, never in that time did I falsely love my job.
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